It is true that some are born with more resilience than others, however, it is a learnable skill that can be enhanced with the right effort.
Building resilience is an active skill, meaning it needs constant upkeep/work to maintain and improve, but that does not make it impossible. Resilience develops from a combination effect of behaviors, actions, thoughts, and skills. To bounce back from stressful times you need commitment, control, and challenge.
Here are some of our best tips on gaining and improving your resilience in the workplace:
1. Commit to events and plans.
Do not flake when the going gets tough. It is likely that when you get stressed and overwhelmed you may want to pull away from commitments, but in the end, this can make you feel worse. It’s best to go through with your commitments and feel proud for doing so afterward. Having the social support of friends and colleagues is crucial. This is the first step to building resilience.
2. Utilise control to create a balanced life.
You need to build rest and recuperation time into your schedule if you want to have enough energy to overcome struggles and problems that arise. It can be hard to get control over your schedule to allow for balance, but without it you will struggle to have the energy for resilience when needed.
3. Take responsibility and challenge yourself.
First things first, do not confuse taking responsibility with taking blame; blame will keep you down, responsibility helps you know what to do better next time. Try to maintain a positive attitude during challenges, this step is about realising you can do better next time, and then dedicating yourself to that goal. Resilient people have strong defined goals that help them keep their eyes on the prize and their mind off worries and failures that don’t matter. (More on motivation and goal setting here).
Top Tip: Get comfortable feeling uncomfortable.
Harness adaptability and prepare for change and setbacks to occur - because they always do. Understanding impermanence is how you stay resilient; not worrying over small changes, or hanging onto the past or expectations that hold you back.
This also means you need to get comfortable failing – a lot before you succeed.